Chaos is the arch-enemy of the Purposeful Home. Consistency makes you a Wonder Woman who assigns responsibilities, schedules meals, sets boundaries and negotiates budgets. Awaken your inner Wonder Woman of consistency in these areas:
Parenting: Stabilize your parent-child relationships with guidelines that are clear, concise and consistent.
Housekeeping: Work a consistent plan to spare your family confusion and grant you more time to relax in fresh, clutter-free surroundings.
Personal effectiveness: Establish goals, priorities and dreams, then evaluate regularly to see your progress.
Q: My Wonder Woman is sound asleep and my home is in chaos. How do I wake her up and turn this mess around?
A: Give your inner Wonder Woman a good shake and a quick refresher course on organizing your home at Purposeful Home. A cup of coffee with a friend or two couldn’t hurt either, while discussing our Schedule or Get It Done charts. Choose the one you like best, and get started. Check back with your girlfriends for more encouragement in a week or two. Stay upbeat in spite of challenges – you can do it, Wonder Woman!
Q. My housekeeping is going along okay, but my kids are creating chaos by whining and quarrelling. Is consistency the cure?
A. Absolutely! Get your Wonder Woman to pull out her boundary marker. Create limits for the kids’ communications, at the same time promoting more understanding of each other’s rights. Here are a few anti-whine phrases (use them consistently):
“My ears can’t hear a whiney voice, talk in a plain voice.”
“I’ll help you when you ask politely; say please.”
“I realize you need _________. I’ll take care of it as soon as I can.” (use sparingly; the quickest way to quiet the whining is to observe and serve genuine needs as speedily as possible).
Does Wonder Woman have an anti-quarrelling device in her utility belt? You bet – it’s a two-sided tool that combines consistency with creativity. Try these ideas and come up with more of your own:
“No quarrelling. Let’s be creative and find a way to share/take turns/make it work.”
“We don’t use swear words in this house.”
“No yelling or hitting. We communicate with words in this house.”
“Its time you two moved on to different activities in different places. You both need space. You can come back to this later when you’re refreshed.”
Running around outside also helps kids release frustration and anger. Just don’t send them all out together to clobber each other where you’re not watching!
Q: I have so many plans, goal and dreams, but it’s all a jumble that clouds my vision. I don’t seem to be able to consistently work my ideas into reality. Help!
A. A chaotic inner life is stressful, whether from an abundance of creative plans or from painful experiences. Begin to sort through your goals by putting them down on paper or on a computer project management system. Once you have all your ideas in front of you, begin to classify them according to areas of interest, length of time to accomplish, cost, and other categories that seem relevant. Just having them all out in front of you should bring some relief to the inner overload. Now sift through and select two or three to begin to fit into your schedule right away, delegating some others to a three month starting point, and others to six months out. After this planning exercise is over, begin to consistently work on the two or three you selected for immediate implementation. Evaluate your progress every two weeks, with a friend, if possible (it really helps to have a soul-mate who honors your commitment to your projects). Two years from now you’ll be able to look back and see a trail of accomplishment instead of a blur of turmoil.
Consistency is your secret weapon against the chaos that naturally tends to happen. Wake up your Wonder Woman and begin to take charge of your Purposeful Home.
Parenting: Stabilize your parent-child relationships with guidelines that are clear, concise and consistent.
Housekeeping: Work a consistent plan to spare your family confusion and grant you more time to relax in fresh, clutter-free surroundings.
Personal effectiveness: Establish goals, priorities and dreams, then evaluate regularly to see your progress.
Q: My Wonder Woman is sound asleep and my home is in chaos. How do I wake her up and turn this mess around?
A: Give your inner Wonder Woman a good shake and a quick refresher course on organizing your home at Purposeful Home. A cup of coffee with a friend or two couldn’t hurt either, while discussing our Schedule or Get It Done charts. Choose the one you like best, and get started. Check back with your girlfriends for more encouragement in a week or two. Stay upbeat in spite of challenges – you can do it, Wonder Woman!
Q. My housekeeping is going along okay, but my kids are creating chaos by whining and quarrelling. Is consistency the cure?
A. Absolutely! Get your Wonder Woman to pull out her boundary marker. Create limits for the kids’ communications, at the same time promoting more understanding of each other’s rights. Here are a few anti-whine phrases (use them consistently):“My ears can’t hear a whiney voice, talk in a plain voice.”
“I’ll help you when you ask politely; say please.”
“I realize you need _________. I’ll take care of it as soon as I can.” (use sparingly; the quickest way to quiet the whining is to observe and serve genuine needs as speedily as possible).
Does Wonder Woman have an anti-quarrelling device in her utility belt? You bet – it’s a two-sided tool that combines consistency with creativity. Try these ideas and come up with more of your own:
“No quarrelling. Let’s be creative and find a way to share/take turns/make it work.”
“We don’t use swear words in this house.”
“No yelling or hitting. We communicate with words in this house.”
“Its time you two moved on to different activities in different places. You both need space. You can come back to this later when you’re refreshed.”
Running around outside also helps kids release frustration and anger. Just don’t send them all out together to clobber each other where you’re not watching!
Q: I have so many plans, goal and dreams, but it’s all a jumble that clouds my vision. I don’t seem to be able to consistently work my ideas into reality. Help!
A. A chaotic inner life is stressful, whether from an abundance of creative plans or from painful experiences. Begin to sort through your goals by putting them down on paper or on a computer project management system. Once you have all your ideas in front of you, begin to classify them according to areas of interest, length of time to accomplish, cost, and other categories that seem relevant. Just having them all out in front of you should bring some relief to the inner overload. Now sift through and select two or three to begin to fit into your schedule right away, delegating some others to a three month starting point, and others to six months out. After this planning exercise is over, begin to consistently work on the two or three you selected for immediate implementation. Evaluate your progress every two weeks, with a friend, if possible (it really helps to have a soul-mate who honors your commitment to your projects). Two years from now you’ll be able to look back and see a trail of accomplishment instead of a blur of turmoil.
Consistency is your secret weapon against the chaos that naturally tends to happen. Wake up your Wonder Woman and begin to take charge of your Purposeful Home.
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